2015 wasn't my year. I'm glad to see the back of it for many reasons, but thankfully it ended better than it started so I'm grateful. Here's a few things that I learnt and will take with me into 2016:
Share things with those closest to you. I bottled a lot of things up and tried to deal with them myself. When I did share with others they often gave a different perspective to what I'd been thinking and invaluable advice that helped.
No one is perfect. Despite looking happy on the outside and seeming to lead the perfect life it doesn't mean people always are. You don't always know the struggle they are going through, so don't compare yourself to them. Just be you in the best way you can.
It's ok to make mistakes. We are all human and don't expect to always get things right the first time. It's unrealistic and through your mistakes you grow. Being wrong is sometimes part of the process, but do remember to say sorry if you have wronged someone else.
You are stronger than you realise. This was one of the biggest realisations this year. It's not until you are tested, sometimes repeatedly, that you realise actually you can do this. You learn to cope, to deal with it and become more resilient because there is no alternative.
If 2015 was like putting a band aid on, 2016 will be like ripping it off and letting the wound heal.
Looking ahead, I'm thinking of goals rather than resolutions or a checklist. My focus will be on my health, fitness, wellbeing as well as learning and being more creative.
Rather than dieting, I will continue to eat healthy like I did last year. Through doing a Sky programme about losing weight this time last year I learnt so many useful tips on how to make lifestyle changes rather than quick-fixes or fad dieting. I'm pleased I haven't put the weight on that I lost and aim to continue with this. The same goes with fitness. I took a number of classes last year and have learnt I prefer doing exercise with others and I am more likely to stick to it this way than doing it alone, that's why I prefer going to Zumba or Bollywood dance classes with my cousin or friends than the gym alone.
In terms of wellbeing, I'm not good at taking time out for myself. I kid myself I'm having some me time and actually end up cleaning, tidying, cooking or something else productive but that isn't actually for ME. I need to learn it's ok to actually chill and watch Netflix instead of doing something. It's ok to just stick music on and sing along to it instead of using it to pass the time while cleaning. It's ok to read a book, and not just on the commute to work. It's ok to spend time on me.
Being creative and learning. I'm going to stick these together as I think they link up well. My mind is constantly active and I find it hard to switch off, see above -finding it hard to relax. I'm happiest when I'm creating something, whether it's sewing, crocheting, painting, writing, but definitely doing something. I will carry on doing this and trying to improve. Linking this up with learning, I want to open my mind more. Whether it's taking a course so I can improve my sewing, learning how to write In a new style, taking cooking lessons or a course related to my work. I'm aiming to have new experiences and try new things this year.
Here's to 2016. May yours equally be filled with happiness and all you wish for. Xxx